I hate my ex zip

It obviously doesn't feel good. Guess what happens when you are assaulted with these poignant reminders of your long-lost love? It makes it almost impossible to get over him or her. Being sad makes it so difficult to truly feel like you've moved on.

But when you embrace your anger, you find it easier to ignore the poignant reminders of your past. You move toward the future. Plus, the only path through any emotional block is through experiencing it, accepting it and moving on.

If you never deal with your anger, you can never move past it. By accepting it and processing it, you make it much easier to move on. By Nick Bastion. In fact, my oversensitive nature is a curse that has led me to get hurt time and time again. Now, with that said, let's get to the five reasons why being angry is beneficial when it comes to dealing with breakups: 1. It gives you motivation. I am going through a devastating breakup at the moment at At first, the realization that my relationship had failed made me feel doomed.

There was a time when I despised him and felt like because of him and my fear of being betrayed again so deeply , I would be alone for the rest of my life. Your article helped me understand why this relationship has ended, while also validating my reasons for ending it.

Thank you. I see that this post is old. But i have recently gone through a break up that has left me utterly lifeless. I turned 37 this year and i honestly thought i had my act together. I find myself hating my Ex with so much passion.

I hate his stupid face even more. Seeing him makes me feel like throwing up. I hate the fact that he is allowed to breath and be happy. I keep asking myself why do i always have to be the cool one? Why do i have to be understanding? He has tried to make up with me, but that makes me hate him even more!

Am i being too negative? This person i loved so much, and shared my heart with him. This person spat on my heart and stomped on it. What was worse is i thought were friends. He hurt me with his selfishness and arrogance. Because the truth is i was too good for him. I am working on my emotions. Decided to get therapy because i hate him way too much to continue giving him more of my time. I want to forget him and bury all my memories of him.

You will get through this — especially because you sough help and you are working on your feelings. Great article. I lived hating my ex girlfriend for betraying me and destroying the life i wanted to create and live with her a couple of years after the break up.

After that i totally forgot her but 20 years later i started getting emails from her, she even visited me at my job! I live happy now, how did it happen? Thank God i found a way beyond wasting time obsessed with someone who was not worth it…. Thank you for being here and for sharing! Hi Terri! It was my first time reading your blog and it made me realize how much I hate him because of the trauma that he gave me.

It was really hard for me to forgive him right away, though we have good memories, what if not good memories are much greater than the good ones? I think it was not easy to face this kind of stage where you need to deal with the good memories and not good memories, it makes my soul restless, but I guess dealing and facing those things are the only way for me to heal right? Hi Kirsten, Thank you for sharing and for being here. I had , in bank which he spent nearly immediately I stupidly trusted him and did joint accounts , and then he quit his job.

For 5 years I supported him and his son — paid all the bills, all the food and alcohol, school fees, paid his child support, paid for his car, paid for his tools, paid off his debts without thinking of myself. He kept telling me he would work, and I trusted him. He never did. Every time he got a speeding ticket in my car, he said it was me driving.

It sounds like there was a lot of manipulation in your relationship with lasting repercussions for you, especially after all the money he took. Just remember to put yourself first, and focus on your own healing, rather than hatred, as this will be best for your process. Unfortunately I see her being very much like her dad and it hurts and I hate how he has destroyed my family I have a boyfriend now but know he has a lot to deal with my lack of trust and confidence I have had counselling and was told it was wrong the way I was treated How do I move on from not only ending an abusive relationship but losing my daughter as she has very little to do with me unless it is to give out money she is Stay the path of healing through counseling and work on yourself.

My wife left after 30 years. I like the pain and occasional anger, it drives me, and I have done pretty well financially. I screwed up many a relationship because of my hurt and losing my family.

She made her choice and destroyed our family. I have moved on. I do resent her and never want to see her again. My problem is I gave too much and expected nothing. Never again will I give up everything for anyone.

I am pretty happy now have had a girlfriend for 8 years but I do miss the past occasionally. Hi Philip, Thank you for sharing. Living in the present in a healthy, mindful way may bring you some peace. Forgive her. I was plotted against. Had the neighbors helping her. She introduced the boyfriend 2 weeks after I left the house to my kids who were upset.

She continues to manipulate my children and spend my time and money using them. Not strong enough. Heal my heart to love again? Thank you for sharing your experience. You get to choose how you want to move forward from this experience.

I feel hate is necessary step in proces. You just can;t stop it, for me it was a long process: 1. I offer what hopefully will bring people peace. I could really use some non-therapy resources to deal with the seething anger I have for my ex-wife. I felt I had moved on, and yet the constant barrage of ridiculous inequality that occurs on a weekly basis is too much. Are there online groups, etc that I can utilize to help with this anger? Please help. She was a big part of my life from soccer pals great friends to eventually dating.

Yes she did some really bad things like going back to an ex then back To me lies etc. I hear you and I am witnessing your situation with compassion Pat. Ask yourself why you want to make amends? What are you hoping to achieve? It may be just as useful to write a letter that you never send. Express everything you want to express and then burn it or throw it away to let it go. I wish you the best out there. I could not get her to understand what it was like and she lost interest.

What are you doing to take care of yourself and address your anxiety and depression? You have been through a lot and I think you could benefit greatly from working with a trained professional.

Wishing you the best. I am embarrassed to admit I have held onto bitter resentment for 10 years. I was with my husband for 7 years, 2 kids together. One day he up and leaves. Files for divorce. I had no idea til I got the papers. After a few years we settled down and began a great co parenting plan which worked for a long time.

Until he got a girlfriend and stopped being a dad. Now, I find myself hating him all over again. I want so badly to go into feeling nothing for him. I wish there was an easy way to move on. No need to feel embarrassed, you have the right to your feelings.

Process those feelings and therapy might help with that. You deserve to move on and you deserve to live without that bitter resentment. There is a whole world on the other side. Sending you so much strength and compassion. You got this. Hi, Terri. When looking for a therapist, I would encourage you to do a little digging.

Ask friends for recommendations. What kind of online reviews do these people have? You can ask any therapist to do a free consultation which they may or may not do but it always helps to inquire. Remember YOU are interviewing them.

Book a session and then tune into your intuition to see if you have any warning signs go off- do you feel comfortable and like you could let go and trust this person? Do you feel safe? Do they have experience in the area that you specifically want to work on?

Did you have red flags about the therapist that you can look for in the future? I am sending you so much strength.

I am considering laying all my cards on the table with my wife to be honest about my feelings for my ex partner and how much she means to me, I appreciate this will not be met with smiles and happiness however My expectation is truth will be acknowledged.. Do you believe this is a good idea? You are the only person that can decide what is a good idea for you.

You know what is best for you, and I would encourage you to tune into your inner wisdom. You may also find it helpful to seek a counselor or therapist to talk to someone that can really get to know you and your situation. I really hope this gets read and at the same time i am scared to actually write this but here goes.. I have been married for 12 years. It was a great relationship at the start and it was a big move for her coming from India.

I then met somebody at work where we both fell for each other. I told her everything about my current status i never lied and also was honest enough to say there was a baby on the way and I was expecting her to just leave this situation before it got deeper.. We had been together just over 5 years and it was amazing, so many memories made and holidays etc. She decided to change herself because of how things were and petty arguments started happening…very frequently.

I hurt her badly with things I was saying.. I was losing my mind.. I was sinning i know this. I then suggested that I start looking at jobs away from where we reside, to move away and have a new job will give me more flexibility and we could live together to see where this relationship goes.

I did suggest that grudgingly we needed solid time apart.. Thank you for sharing your story and for being so vulnerable here. It is brave to tell the truth. I am witnessing you and sending you strength for your journey. I cannot thank you enough for your insight. It has been profound for me. Why am I still so angry?

Thank you so very much. Josie, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that you experienced all this. Of course you have lots of emotions, you have dealt with loss of love and a terminally ill child. I encourage you to find ways to release your anger, because holding on to it is only poisoning you. Have you tried writing a letter to him to express all of your feelings towards him and what has happened?

Write it all out, get all your feels and hurt on the page. When you are done, burn the letter and let it go. If you have a trusted friend to be witness to this process, all the better. However, it is so difficult to move on after two years without contacting each other and now we work in the same place.

I can feel the rage deep inside me emerging like waves! I feel so much rage and hatred inside me! Thank you for sharing your story here with us, Thanh. Also, if you can get into therapy it will accelerate your healing and releasing the anger.

I am sending you good vibes! I thought we were good. I beg she treat me like trash. I keep asking why if I know I was always open with her told her just communicate with me but never cheat. Not sure if you still check this site or would be willing to talk to on phone or email. Wont detail here but i have been in a tough spot for many years. Wife to be. Manipulated me, mentally abused me, lied to medicade and benifets office. I did have good job and quit to help with kids and be stay at home dad for over 3 years.

She continued to lie about money. Kept having relations with many guys. I found out about most of them because i started snooping. She lied and had me arrested for family violence but i got it dismissed. She said i choked her while she was pregnant.

And no i honestly never in my life put my hands on her in an aggressive or controling way. She did unspeakable things behind my back. I lived with both her parents, her and our 5 kids. Her older sister lives next door with her 5 kids and hubby. I do so much to help her parents and her side of family. I take care of loose ends and think about what would help them in their daily routine. Never truley involved herself in the family WE created.

I have been a Dad and a Mom. Everything for them plus extras. I need to get all this out of my head and put my story on paper in a correct way. She has been worse these past 4 months and its getting worse. And i should trust her. Im lying. Im the crazy one.

She even told me that she is invincible and noone is going to do anything about it. She is so messef up. I think about running away. I think about suicide. I think about making her dissapear or suffer tremendously. But im better than that. Im smarter than that. I know in my heart that i am the best thing for raising my children. Let mr tell ya. Im a hard worker.

Contruction doing Commercial doors and BIG expensive jobs. Working 99hours in 6 days type hours. Repetition compulsion is a psychological term that occurs when someone puts themselves in situations where an event is likely to happen again. They might try to reenact a previous event to get a more appealing result. They can date people just like their exes or try to fix their new partners as much as they can.

Trying to fix a mistake from the past is an unhealthy process. You will resent your ex when you find out that the past cannot indeed be changed. You need to create a better future and forget your previous mistakes.

The best thing to do is to move on. To stop feeling resentment towards your ex, you need to stop feeling regret and try to make your future better. However, you need to consider how everything ended, and figure out if picking them again is worth it. If you failed to tell your ex that they hurt you before the breakup , you could still tell them after. Nonetheless, please do it for your inner peace, and not to receive consolation from them. Did you enjoy this article?

Remember that hating your ex only does more damage to you than it does to them. So try to find peace and move on, no matter how long it takes. Kindly leave a comment below and share this article if you liked it. As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.

It creates a lot of interference and disruption in our life together. Any advice on how to manage through? Congratulations on your engagement.

Your stepchild can never know how you feel, even when she is 25 and sharing a margarita on the beach with you. Even when her mama hurts her and she confides in you.

Even when her mother is shouting lies from the rooftops and everyone knows it. It is hard for your stepchild to see where she ends and her mother begins.

Any resentment distracts you from the truth of your bond and interaction. Love that little person in spite of who her mother is. Build a bond on trust and shared fun and happy memory. Make your surroundings an ex-free zone. That would violate the tip above.